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BRIDESMAID DRESSES

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Having a hard time choosing the right dress for your bridesmaids? Here are a few tips on how to choose a dress that both you and your bridesmaids will love:

1. Mix and Match!

Gone are the days when your bridesmaids must be dressed identically. Letting bridesmaids choose their own dress allows them to select a gown that suits their body type and budget. If you have a number of different body types represented in your bridal party, allow your girls to select their own dress. To maintain some uniformity, decide on a dress length for everyone to shop for.

Source: Style Me Pretty

2. Keep it in the family!

Provide your girls with a swatch to use when they shop if there’s a particular hue you’re going for. For a more eclectic look, invite your girls to choose darker or lighter tones in the same color family. Different neutrals in grey or blush will compliment all skin types.

Source: Style Me Pretty

3. Go for a convertible dress.

Convertible / infinity dresses provide you with a variety of looks within the same color family. Your maids will be able to add their own spin and flair to the dress, while you have the option to pick the fabric and color. Better yet, it’s more likely to be a dress they’ll enjoy wearing again and again.

Source: Style Me Pretty

4. Go with something non-traditional.

A dress doesn’t have to be labeled “bridesmaid” for your maids to wear them. Be creative, and think outside the box!

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5. Choose something comfortable.

In which season will your wedding be? Will your bridesmaids be outdoors? Choose a fabric that can flow and breathe in the summer. A dress they can dance in with ease is a must. If you’ll be having a fall or winter weather, don’t choose a dress that they will freeze in… particularly if you’ll be taking photos outside!

Source: Inspiring Pretty, Donna Morgan

6. Keep price in mind!

Don’t let it break the bank. Bridesmaids are on a budget! Do your research, and you might be able to find the same dress (or one that’s virtually identical) for a better price. Here are some dresses we love from Target that are all under $100.

Source: Target

7. Don’t Write Off the Skirt!

A cute flared skirt and top can flatter many body types, and are fun to mix and match! Choose a bold accessory or top color that will unify your maids, and match their skirts to colors in their bouquet for a cohesive look.

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8. Don’t be afraid to have fun.

We’re in love with these charming dresses by Naughty Shorts, with vintage fabrics and thick ribbon sashes in assorted colors to further differentiate each dress. Play with patterns and textures for a more bohemian / eclectic look, and don’t be afraid to have fun! There are no rules when it comes to your day. Choose dresses that you love, and hopefully your girls will look and feel great in them as well!

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BRIDAL SHOWER ETIQUETTE

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Your bridal shower is an opportunity for close friends and family to share in your excitement and shower you with love in the days leading up to your big day! Here are some of our top tips on shower etiquette:

DON’T host the shower yourself. Allow your bridesmaids, or a close family member or friend, to do the honors.

DO send a paper invitation to all those invited. E-mail invitations are too informal for such a special occasion.

DON’T print registry information directly on the invitation. The couple’s registry information can be included as an insert, or guests can be directed to the couple’s wedding website (if available).

DO provide the shower planners with a list of guests. This will be helpful to them, and will ensure that your Aunt Mildred is not accidentally excluded from the fun.

DON’T invite people who you will not be inviting to the wedding. There are exceptions, of course. Should a co-worker take it upon themselves to plan a small shower or celebration in the office, this does not obligate you to invite every person in the company to your wedding. If you are planning a small destination wedding, this is also a scenario where your shower may include guests who will not be attending your wedding.

DO greet all guests personally. You may want to stand near the door early on as guests arrive to ensure that nobody is missed, or visit each table sometime during the shower.

DON’T micromanage the shower planning. Share your vision for the day with the bridesmaids if you’re envisioning a more casual affair, but give them the space and freedom to add their personal touches.

DO plan a fun mixer activity early on in the shower to encourage guests to mingle and have fun!

DON’T forget the prizes! Your bridesmaids will likely take care of these, but you may offer to contribute some small gifts for door prizes or games.

DON’T expect guests to pay for their own food if the venue is a restaurant. If a luncheon is too costly, consider a tea shop, or have a close friend or family member host a backyard luncheon, a brunch, or simply dessert (because let’s be honest… who doesn’t love a good cupcake and a cup of tea or coffee?). A shower hosted at home offers a more affordable alternative to a restaurant, and will offer a more relaxed setting for your guests to enjoy.

DO consider the clock when planning games and activities. Planning 2-3 shower games is usually a good rule of thumb, but guests can grow weary of games if they are overdone. For a quick and easy game that’s guaranteed to please, try giving out door prizes with scratch cards, or have guests write their wishes for the couple as a meaningful keepsake that will be enjoyed for years to come.

DON’T expect your bridal party (or guests who are invited to multiple showers to bring a gift for each and every shower they attend.

DO express your thanks to your shower planners. You may be asked to share some words after the gifts have been opened. This is a great opportunity to thank your guests for their love and support, and most importantly to acknowledge those who planned the day and participated in some way.

DON’T forget to have a plan for transporting gifts after the shower.

DO send written thank-you notes to all those who gave a gift (or sent one in their absence) in a timely manner – usually within 2-3 weeks after the shower. We’ve shared some tips here to make writing thank-you notes a breeze!

DO relax, and have fun! Your guests are there because they love and support you! This is your opportunity to relax and enjoy the day, and leave the planning and running around to others.

WEDDING PARTY 101

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While every bridal party is different, it helps to have a frame of reference when it comes to traditional roles and responsibilities. We’ve summarized them below, but feel free to improvise and discuss with your friends to determine what’s right for you:

MAID (OR MATRON) OF HONOR
  • Joins the bride to shop for the bridal gown.
  • Coordinates meetings for bridesmaid dress fittings.
  • Leads the charge in planning a bridal shower and bachelorette party (with the help of the bridesmaids).
  • Arranges the bride’s veil and train at the altar.
  • Holds the groom’s ring until it’s time for the exchange of rings.
  • Holds the bride’s bouquet while she says her vows.
  • Serves as witness to sign the wedding certificate.
  • Gives a toast or speech at the wedding reception.
  • Is available to assist the bride when she changes clothes or uses the restroom (yes, hold up that dress while she pees!)
BRIDESMAIDS
  • Help organize the bridal shower and bachelorette party.
  • Will usually pay for their own bridesmaid dress.
  • Assist the bride with pre-wedding crafts, shopping trips and tasks such as making decorations, assembling favors, and inscribing invitations.
JUNIOR BRIDESMAID(S)
  • Traditionally dresses in a more modest / age-appropriate version of what the bridesmaids are wearing.
  • Joins the bridesmaids on the day of the wedding, and walks down the aisle with the bridesmaids during the processional.
  • Parents typically are expected to provide for her wedding expenses.
FLOWER GIRL
  • Walks down the aisle just before the Maid of Honor or bride.
  • Holds a small bouquet, a single bloom, or a basket containing flowers to scatter on the aisle.
  • Parents typically are expected to provide for her dress / wedding expenses.
BEST MAN
  • Organizes the bachelor party (with the help of the groomsmen).
  • Coordinates groomsman’s fittings.
  • Drives the groom to the ceremony.
  • Holds the bride’s ring until it’s time for the exchange of rings.
  • Serves as witness to sign the wedding certificate.
  • Gives a toast or speech at the wedding reception.
GROOMSMEN
  • Attends engagement party (if applicable).
  • Helps organize the bachelor party.
  • Rents (or buys) his own tuxedo or formalwear.
  • Assists with pre-wedding tasks the morning of the wedding
  • Early arrival at the ceremony site to help with any last-minute setup or errands that may arise.
  • Helps after the wedding with transporting the gifts to the couple’s home, or another storage place that the bride and groom designate.
  • Decorating the going away car
RINGBEARER
  • Walks down the aisle, traditionally before the flower girl.
  • Carries the rings (usually fakes) either sewn on a pillow, or in a box.
  • Parents typically are expected to provide for his attire / wedding expenses.
PARENTS OF THE BRIDE
  • Attends wedding dress fittings and shopping with the bride (mother).
  • Traditionally, the parents of the bride cover wedding expenses.
  • Help bride and groom with guestlist and other details.
  • Traditionally, the father walks the bride down the aisle.
PARENTS OF THE GROOM
  • Traditionally, the parents of the groom cover rehearsal dinner.
  • Help bride and groom with guest list.

THANK YOU NOTES

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Thank-you notes can seem daunting, but they don’t need to be. Express your gratitude to guests with a heartfelt and easy handwritten note with these simple tips:

START WITH A GOOD LIST.

At your shower, be sure to designate someone to keep a list of gifts given. This may be in a simple notebook that you will keep to check off, or download this free printable gift list.

SEND THEM IN A TIMELY MANNER.

You’ll want to have them in the mail within two weeks, so break out your favorite pen and some pretty stationery, pour yourself a cup of tea or coffee, and get them done!  Remember, done is better than perfect, and a note written from the heart will mean so much to your shower guests. With our thank-you note cheat sheet to get you started, you’ll be done in a snap!

NEVER MENTION “MONEY”

Did a guest give you a cash gift? Thank them for their generosity, rather than for a named dollar amount. Convey to them how it will be helpful when you shop for furniture, or whatever other large item you will use it towards.

DON’T FORGET YOUR PARTY PLANNERS.

Planning a shower is a lot of work. Show your appreciation to those who hosted it with a special note to them after the event.Consider giving them a small gift at the event, and if given the opportunity verbally acknowledge their efforts at the shower.

FORMULA:

Dear (Name),
Thank-you so much for the (gift).
A sentence conveying how much you love their gift, and how you plan to use it. A closing note conveying that you are looking forward to seeing them at the wedding.
Love (or another closing of your choice),
Your Name

EXAMPLES:

. . .
Dear Aunt Mary,
Thank-you so much for the beautiful cake stand!
We are looking forward to enjoying it for birthdays and celebrations to come! Jack and I can’t wait to see you at the wedding!
Love, Charlotte

. . .
Dear Tess,
Where do I begin? I can’t thank you enough for not only the Kitchenaid Mixer, but for the most incredible shower a girl could ask for! Thank-you for all of your hard work in planning it.
Your support has meant the world to me, and I’m so very grateful for your friendship. I can’t wait to have you by my side when Jack and I say “I Do” next month!
With heartfelt thanks, Charlotte

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